So much has been written on western Christian marriages, that I felt some insights into other wedding ceremony practices might be a refreshing modify. There is no official figure for the amount of Buddhists in the world right now but estimates range from 300 to 500 million. Official counts are unattainable since of China’s repression of religion in basic. Buddhism is, by any measure, at least the 6th biggest religion on the planet.

Buddhism regards marriage as a secular matter. Buddhism does not see marriage as a sacrament or religious duty. As a outcome, Buddhist monks do not solemnize the marriage or officiate the ceremony. Instead, their function is to execute religious solutions that bless the couple.

As in most cultures and religions, items get started with the groom asking for the bride’s hand in marriage. This may possibly be accomplished by the boy himself or by way of the mothers and fathers in an “arranged” marriage. Either way, when the boy has discovered his meant, he sends a family members buddy to the girl’s house. The pal carries a bottle of wine or other alcoholic beverage and a white silk scarf called a khada. The friend’s purpose is to determine if the girl’s household has any curiosity in the proposal. This standard ritual is called Khachang. If the girl’s household is interested in the proposal, a meeting in between the two households is organized at which they assess kikas. Kikas are somewhat like horoscopes and are utilized to determine the date of the engagement, the colour of the bride and groom’s costumes and other critical dates and particulars. Tradition also dictates that the groom present his bride with a present. It could be land, money or anything at all of value.

Subsequent is the formal engagement identified as Nangchang. A lama or rimpoche (monk) oversees the Nangchang. Kikas are again consulted to establish the most propitious date for the wedding. The bride and groom will remain collectively in either of their residences right up until the wedding day. Maternal uncles on the two sides perform crucial roles in ongoing negotiations. Visitors give gifts of rice and chicken to the bride’s mother as thanks for raising the girl. Meats and beverages are provided to the bride’s unmarried elder siblings and to her mom.

When the date for the marriage ceremony arrives, the bride, groom, household and buddies collect at the pre-appointed place the place a shrine of the Lord Buddha has been erected. In front of the shrine, decorated with flowers and festooned with candles. All attendees recite the Tisarana, Pancasila and the Vandana. The couple is then directed to light the candles and incense. The couple recites the vows prescribed in the Sigilovdda Sutta (Digha Nikilya):


“In the direction of my wife I undertake to love and respect her, be kind and considerate, be faithful, delegate domestic management, and give presents to please her.”


“In direction of my husband I undertake to carry out my family duties effectively, be hospitable to my in-laws and buddies of my husband, be faithful, safeguard and invest our earnings, discharge my responsibilities lovingly and conscientiously.”

At the conclusion of the vows, the parents and/or the assembly will recite the Mangala Sutta and Jayamangala Gatha to offer you their blessings for the couple.

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